How Not to Have a Blue, Blue Christmas

As we age, our circle of close friends and family can start to shrink. Although we may not feel lonely most of the time if we are engaged in regular activities, holiday time can change the flow of these regular activities and social networks.

There is no need to suffer if you are alone, far away from family, or have lost a loved one recently. With a little ingenuity and creativity, you can make your own holiday cheer.

1. If you are a traditionalist, you can attend a religious service during Hanukkah or Christmas at a local temple or church without being a member of the congregation. You can call to see what time and dates will suit you best and whether or not you need to purchase a ticket. Or, you could inquire if there are any activities or meals sponsored for seniors at the local temple or church. You aren’t the only person looking for comradeship and a little holiday cheer.


2. If you belong to an activity group or live in a condo or seniors‘ building, ask around or put up a notice to find out who else is on their own for the holiday. Organize a potluck lunch or dinner at someone’s home the weekend of December 24-26. Ask everyone to bring a photo of whomever they really miss at this holiday time. Place them on a side table with a few candles or a small floral arrangement. Toast the missing loved ones.


3. Arrange to meet a friend or two at a restaurant. Dress up.


4. Go to a movie on Dec. 25, which is possible in most big cities.


5. Invite one or more friends over for popcorn and a movie; CD, DVD, or “On Demand” TV


6. Just for you, buy a special food for a festive meal and put some flowers on the table with a small gift by your plate. Turn on your favourite music. Follow up with a DVD or watch television.


7. Volunteer at a homeless shelter to serve Christmas dinner. Volunteer at a hospital on Christmas Day by reading to or visiting patients. People who play an instrument are in demand at seniors’ residences or retirement homes.

You are your best friend, so be good to yourself. Try a warm bubble bath, dress up and stay rested and well fed.

Judith Carson is a director of the Guelph Wellington Seniors Association and Chair of the Advocacy Committee www.gwsa-guelph.ca