Welcome to Peri-Menopause Lane

Supposedly I look really young. But, somebody forgot to tell nature. And my knees.  Apparently, my body has decided it's time to get old. er.

I’ve begun what’s clinically called the peri-menopause, and what’s anecdotally called, The BITCH YEARS.

This is going to be a fun decade plus five. I can just tell.


This is whatThe Changehas done to me:

Not by the hair of my chinny chin chin. Yep, there’s one big, black hair growing out of my chin.  The first time I saw it, I was driving and I had pulled down the mirror to check my lip gloss. And, there it was, virtually six inches of vibrissa (that’s a word. go look it up.)

Hello, Witchie-poo. My paltry lady acne is probably nothing to complain about.  Except, I’ve never had pimples. I went through the teenage years virtually zit-free except for one beauty that would show up monthly between my eyes like a hot red bindi.  Now, I get eruptions.  Usually on the tip of my nose.  My daughter calls them horns. Today, I have two that have situated themselves like warts right underneath my mouth. They’re pretty.

Pain. OH.  Have you met Dr. Mittelschmerz?  I’ve known him for a long time. Except now, the Doctor makes house calls to my ovaries on alternating months accompanied by a jackhammer and a red hot poker.  The agony causes me to take to my bed. And swoon.

Bloody Hell!  I was blessed my whole life with irregular periods. Now, goddamit, I menstruate every 28 days like clockwork.  What a freaking inconvenience.

Is it hot in here?  Before, I was always freezing cold, now I’m tempted to wear ice packs in my brassiere.   If I could walk around in my scanties, I would. Except that might be illegal.  Or frightening.  There’s nothing like drinking a delicious hot coffee and having it cause a river of sweat to drip down in between your bosoms.

Sexy Mama. There’s something going on, but I feel sexy even in sweats.  No more self-conscious for me. I wave my 32A cleavage around like I’m Chesty Morgan.  It’s true what they say about Cougars being in their prime. Also, and not at all embarrassing, I have become an ogler. Of the young male merchandise. It doesn’t matter if it’s live, on film, or TV.   I guess it’s my swaggy lady hormones.

I may be able to rule the world.  There’s something else that comes with age other than tendonitis.  I have confidence.  I am woman, I can roar (see next point).  I’ll bet when Catherine the Great took control of Russia she was menopausal too.

The Bitch Years.  Sometimes I want to murder people with a large shiny cleaver. By people, I mean my husband.  Usually, he’s doing something benign like laying on the bed minding his own business.  That kind of laziness really incurs my ire.  Other things that make me angry are everything, dishes not put in the dishwasher, people, mud, voices, dust, and everybody.  Also, I think I have caused a couple duct cleaning telemarketers to commit hara-kiri.

Cry-baby.  I cry. All the time. Even more than before. And, I was a weeper.  I cry if I see someone else crying. I cry during Say Yes to the Dress. I cry during American Idol.   I cry if my kids are sad. I cry if my kids are happy. I cry if my husband is mean by accident (but not if he’s mean on purpose-see The Bitch Years).

Are you jealous?  I know you are… admit it.  You wish you had my pituitary gland, don’t you.


by Mara Shapiro. Mara is the Community Manager at Comfort Life. She blogs at Be Nice or Leave. Thanks and MomFaze


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